{"id":3518,"date":"2022-06-10T09:38:38","date_gmt":"2022-06-10T16:38:38","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blog.piercecountywa.gov\/executive\/?p=3518"},"modified":"2023-06-26T13:26:50","modified_gmt":"2023-06-26T20:26:50","slug":"fewer-assumptions-more-kindness","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blog.piercecountywa.gov\/executive\/2022\/06\/10\/fewer-assumptions-more-kindness\/","title":{"rendered":"Fewer assumptions, more kindness"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-3516\" src=\"https:\/\/blog.piercecountywa.gov\/executive\/files\/2022\/06\/kinder.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"640\" height=\"480\" srcset=\"https:\/\/blog.piercecountywa.gov\/executive\/files\/2022\/06\/kinder.jpg 640w, https:\/\/blog.piercecountywa.gov\/executive\/files\/2022\/06\/kinder-300x225.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>With the Executive out of town on an adventure I am sure we will all hear about, I have been asked to be this week\u2019s guest blogger! \u00a0And if you know anything about me, I am my least favorite subject, but I am also a rule follower who drew the short straw.<\/p>\n<p>To my knowledge, I\u2019m the only Pierce County employee to ever serve at the leadership level in the Legislative and Executive branches. I was former Chair Richardson\u2019s Council Assistant for 7 years, Executive Dammeier\u2019s Executive Assistant for 2 years and now sit on his team as the Legislative Affairs Advisor.<\/p>\n<p>In these roles, I\u2019ve seen policy development, strategic planning, budgeting, and public engagement from an initial idea to implementation. What I get asked the most is, \u201chow do you work with so many competing interests and personalities?\u201d \u00a0People are intrigued by the world of politics and the perception of constant gridlock and fighting. Fortunately, at the local level, the reality is far less juicy. I learned very quickly that the secret to getting things done is by dropping assumptions and bringing back kindness.<\/p>\n<p>I have a sign in my office that says, <strong>Always be kinder than you feel<\/strong>. It\u2019s like a good bottle of wine because the advice seriously gets better with time, especially in this post-pandemic era.<\/p>\n<p>Kindness is especially important in our work because everyone has a story. The customer in tears at the Clerk\u2019s Office, the frustrated person contesting their property tax statement at the Assessor-Treasurer\u2019s office, or the obviously flustered person in the elevator trying to find the right courtroom. They all have a backstory and a reason to be having a hard day or moment or year. And now there\u2019s a COVID story to add on top.<\/p>\n<p>Adding a moment of kindness into someone\u2019s day has a huge ripple effect and can disarm tension. I work with elected officials and their staff every day on sometimes heated issues, but we are all people not titles. My sign helps me refocus and I try to be kinder than I maybe <em>feel<\/em> in the moment. I\u2019ve found this invaluable when trying to find compromise in a deadlock.<\/p>\n<p>When thinking about writing today\u2019s blog, I remembered a County Council retreat several years back. We had finished our work for the day and a few Councilmembers and staff stuck around to have dinner together. Then-Chair Joyce McDonald and newer Councilmember Connie Ladenburg sat together, which interested me knowing they were from opposite parties.<\/p>\n<p>I saw two strong women let down their guard and break bread together. They discussed their kids and grandkids, summer plans and home projects, they talked like old friends. And I overheard them say to one another, \u201clet\u2019s try to always remember that we are both moms, wives, and sisters. We are both trying to do the right thing for our families and Pierce County, even if that means we disagree on the &#8216;how.'&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>That conversation I overhead stuck with me. Even when you really disagree with someone, it doesn\u2019t have to be personal. Fewer assumptions and more communication are always better choices.<\/p>\n<p>Sometimes we need tools to help support this effort, just like I have my sign to remind me. I would highly recommend checking out the HR <a href=\"https:\/\/www.piercecountywa.gov\/6602\/Leadership-Certification\">Leadership Certification<\/a> program or exploring one of the many LinkedIn Learning courses if this is an area you want to grow in. \u00a0When in doubt, you can also think WWMMD (What Would Maura Maye Do). ?<\/p>\n<p>I truly enjoy getting to work closely with the Executive departments and elected branches, seeing your great work at all levels of the County. In a world where we can be anything, let\u2019s be kind.<\/p>\n<p>Alice<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\" wp-image-3522 alignleft\" src=\"https:\/\/blog.piercecountywa.gov\/executive\/files\/2022\/06\/Alice_M.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"112\" height=\"169\" \/><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Alice McDaniel is Legislative Affairs Advisor for the Office of the Executive<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>With the Executive out of town on an adventure I am sure we will all hear about, I have been asked to be this week\u2019s guest blogger! \u00a0And if you know anything about me, I am my least favorite subject, but I am also a rule follower who drew the short straw. 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